Monday, November 26, 2012

Black Friday Eve


Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday.  It was the one holiday that had no agenda other than getting together with family and close friends and sharing.  Literally remembering to be thankful for what we have.

So it’s with true and deep sadness that I reflect on my favorite holiday being corrupted by commercialism.  They got to Halloween, the Easter Bunny, and of course Santa, and now they’ve gotten to Thanksgiving too, henceforth known as Black Friday Eve.

My daughter is a student at NYU Tisch and was causally speaking with a student from the Netherlands on her way to the train on Wednesday to come home for Thanksgiving. This is how their conversation went:

Him:  “So you’re going home for Thanksgiving.  Where do you go for Black Friday?”
Her:  “We don’t go out on Black Friday.  You couldn’t pay me to go near a mall on Black Friday.”
Him:  “Really?  I can’t wait!  The pushing, the shoving, the grabbing at bargains.  It looks so exciting! This will be my first one, I can’t wait!”
Her:  “Umm, that’s not what we’re celebrating.  Thanksgiving is about giving thanks for what we have, not planning to get what we don’t have yet.”
Him, with a pitying look:  “You have to get out there on Friday!  Thanksgiving is for the old, Black Friday is for the young.  Happy Black Friday!”

And with a nod to Kurt Vonnegut…and so it goes.

It seems that I’m becoming aware of this phenomenon of Thanksgiving Eve at about the same time as the rest of the masses.  This story from CNN chronicles the rise of Black Friday:  http://www.cnn.com/2012/11/18/opinion/greene-black-friday/index.html?iid=article_sidebar

I saw another short news story that said this Black Friday broke all kinds of records.

My sister, my anecdotal direct connection to mainstream America, was out there in the mix, but she didn’t get up uber early, she just headed to the big boxes around 11 a.m. and reported back that yes, the lines were crazy long, yes there were great deals, yes, the deals weren’t as great as the stores touted, e.g., “They say I saved $300.  I know that’s not right.  The stuff should have cost about $250.  And I spent $180.  So I saved $70.  Which is still great.  And here’s all the stuff I got,” and like a child rattling off to another what Santa left under the tree, she detailed all the buys she got.  She ended with, “It was fun.  I had fun!”  I love my sister’s joie de vivre.

So I will continue to host Thanksgiving at my home each year, no matter how big or how small the gathering.  And I will continue to quietly be thankful for all the good things my life has brought me and I will continue to wish the best for mankind.  I will be hopeful on Black Friday Eve, despite the frenzied preparation all around me for National Shopping Day, the celebration of grabby madness and over the top commercialism gone wild.

I think I will be in the minority, but so what else is new?




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